Surviving Love (Part 2), is my topic on this week’s “Bleeding Heart Chronicles”. Good morning, love. We are continuing our conversation from last week where we discussed – Do we really need love? and Can a person live without love. So we are going to jump right in where we left off.
[gap size=”8px”]
As humans why do we fall in love?
[gap size=”6px”]
To understand why we fall in love is to answer how we fall in love. According to Dr. Nicki Nance, licensed psychotherapist, When we are in the company of the loved one the brain produces more serotonin, which gives a sense of well-being, more endorphins, which are natural pain killers, and more dopamine, which increases pleasure. The good feeling is a reward that makes us want more”. So we can see from this statement, our brains and hormones go wild when faced with a sincere love interest. One could say the person becomes addicted to the other person.
[gap size=”8px”]
And interestingly enough, according to Dr. Joe Bates, psychiatrist, decreased serotonin may produce OCD symptoms of constant thoughts of the other person. And that even viewing pictures of a loved one, can cause us to feel relaxed or produce loving emotions, releasing oxytocin in the bloodstream. And you may find it interesting , that oxytocin is regarded as the “love hormone.”
[gap size=”8px”]
Can Love Survive Without Passion?
[gap size=”6px”]
The simple answer is yes. But this actually can get complicated depending on where passion lands on your scope in a complete relationship. This is something we will explore in depth later on. But passion can become very complex with it opening up even more questions. Like what’s passion’s place in love? Can a romantic relationship be healthy with low levels of passion? Once passion is gone, is it lost forever?
[gap size=”8px”]
.Passion’s place in love
[gap size=”6px”]
Passion is often described as an intense longing. Love relationships can be segmented into three pointed aspects of a triangle labeled intimacy, commitment, and passion. Having all three, which is what the majority of people would like to have, is called, “Consummate Love”, which is represented by the center of the triangle. But most relationships are not characterized by all three dimensions. “Romantic Love”, is actually a fledgling relationship that can be low on commitment, but high on intimacy and passion. “Fatuous Love”, is a relationship that is low on intimacy, but high on commitment and passion. “Companionate Love”, is the side of the triangle connecting intimacy and commitment, and representing low passion.
[gap size=”8px”]
Studies show that many of us are looking for “Companionate Love” which involves an emotional connection and a cognitive decision to be loyal. But for romantic relationships, this often proves to Not be enough for their type of relationship. In these cases, people might emphasize sexual desire more than emotional longing when considering passion, and might use sexual behaviors as a metric for their relationship’s passion.
[gap size=”8px”]
.The effect of high and low Passion
[gap size=”6px”]
Beliefs about passion can shape the course of your relationship. Studies also show emotional intimacy might be tied to couples’ experience of passion in their relationships. The more passion a Couple feels, the more likely they are to have sex, and experience more sexual satisfaction in their relationships. On the other side of things, new evidence suggests that when individuals believe that their relationship passion cannot be reignited, low passion leads to even lower commitment. Color me Not surprised.
[gap size=”8px”]
Do we ever stop loving someone?
[gap size=”6px”]
I‘ve been asked this question many times. You may never stop loving the person you were once with. But that is not to say you’re still in love. You may still have feelings of fondness and care for your ex, but when you are not in love, your brain doesn’t drive you to be with them. Your drive to have sex with them will also fade away.
[gap size=”8px”]
We live in a love starved world. Everyone would like to experience love. Or have one more time to feel it. We must realize that it is important to learn how to not only let love come in, but how to give love too. For those that have been hurt and scared, I say. Love can be toxic and addictive at the same time. But life without love isn’t living. So, get on with living and loving. We don’t have forever!! Love to me is like a spiritual fire in your soul that connects you with another. So, take a chance. I stand with you. I bleed with you. We will pursue a brighter day and happiness in our life. We will survive Love. Because Together we are unstoppable, my love! WE will find our love! Always and forever!
[gap size=”8px”]
If you have a subject you’d like to see addressed on these post, send me a message. I will not reveal your name or detailed information. If you’d like to talk to me in private, you can also message me. You can follow us on
Our FaceBook Page. Have a great week and I will talk to you soon.
[gap size=” 8px”]
[image src=”http://bleedingheartchronicles.lordfreakzilla.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/hr-Bleeding-heart3.png” alt=”HeartHR”]
[gap size=”12px”]
˜Bleeding Heart Chronicles˜ ©
[gap size=”5px”]
Lord Freakzilla is a passionate and resourceful creative writer, experienced in studies of human behavior and psychology. His articles for “Bleeding Heart Chronicles “ is fueled by his compassion for the broken hearted. He also brings to the table his gothic poetry style for “Dark Rose Poems” series.