Finding Yourself

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FINDING YOURSELF, is my topic on this week’s “Bleeding Heart Chronicles”. Good morning, love. So there is a couple of pages of topics, a lot of you have given me to do. There was one in particular I wanted to do. But after speaking to so many of you this past week, I decided I needed to do this topic instead. And I should’ve done this topic sooner. For how can we ever obtain true inner happiness without first knowing who we are?
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More then 50% of the world lives and dies never knowing who they were. There have been thousands of rigorous studies on people world wide that suggest you probably believe more than a few things about yourself that are FALSE. But why wouldn’t that be true? I mean, think about. You are born, then your parents began to tell you who you are. Then your school and your church start telling you who you are. As a teenager, you probably rebelled against this definition of yourself, and tried to discover yourself. But guess what. Then you had your friends telling you who you were. Then you got into a relationship and that person told you who you were. The reason so many do this is because the world wants to fit you in a box. You have to have a label!!!…….. According to the world!
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What holds you back from finding yourself?….Fear!! You fear what others would say or think about you if you became who you are supposed to be. Not just people. Maybe your friends, your parents or your spouse. Another thing, is the things we are taught growing up and even as adults that warps how we think. I will dedicate an article to all the things we get told that are just wrong. But for now I will address one thing. I hear it all the time. He/she makes me happy or He/She completes me. What? Some one has to give you happiness? Are you only half a person?Listen up. Happiness comes from within you. You control your own happiness. And when you are happy, then you find someone who can enhance your happiness you already have. Don’t give all your power away!!
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I‘m going to list a few things that worked for me, in finding myself. As some of you may have read my article ‘The Rise of Darkness’, my awakening began when I was struck down one night on June 5. As it turned out the doctor believed I had a stroke. My brain rewired itself, and I was a new person. I became determined and focused. And these are the things I found that helped me to evolve.
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.1 LIFE CHANGING EVENT- An accident, an illness, or a windfall. It is said that we can discover our purpose and direction by virtue of a sudden change. I can agree with that 100%. When we least expect it, our purpose will knock us down. And when we get up, we step out onto the path we were meant to follow.
.2 EMBRACE YOUR IMPERFECTIONS – We all have flaws. Worries. Guilt. All the things we carry with us that people love to judge us for. We are not perfect. Neither are those judging us. And guess what? It’s ok. Make peace with your past by letting go of guilt and embrace the person you are right now, flaws and all. You have nothing to prove. Your real friends, will always see your good. And your haters will never see beyond their own hate no matter what you do. You can’t change it. So let it be. If I can do it. So can you.
.3 REMOVE NEGATIVITY – Anyone who offers a negative feeling needs to go. I removed several friends in a matter of days when I started. Judge it by the conversations you have. Everyone has a bad day so allow some bad to pass. But after 4 or 5 talks. Do you end up feeling bad about yourself or defending your actions with this friend? If so, they are history. Even if you end up with no friends. I did. If it’s family, limit your exposure.
.4 TRAVEL – We escape the anguish of life by stepping outside ourselves and experiencing new people and places. I went to so many different states. Met a lot of different wonderful people. Tried things I had never tried. I was discovering who I was. And you can to.
.5 READING – I could never sleep. Averaged 2 hours a night. So I spent my time reading everything. My mind was a hungry sponge. From fiction, history, to self-help, reading is a source of new perspectives and guidance. You can find the wisdom of people before us who have sought and found. My readings helped me figure out what I was compared to others experiences. Google is at your finger tips.
.6 SELF-ASSESSMENT – Compile a list of your strengths, skills, experiences, interests, passions, wants, and needs. How often do we ever simply ask ourself, what do you want or need in your life? No answer is wrong or bad. And don’t let anyone tell you it is. Embrace these things and you embrace yourself.
.7 TRYING AND FAILING – This is a wonderfully twisted 2 edge sword. Focus all your energy into trying new life experiences. When we try and fail, we are blessed with life’s little lessons and stories to tell later. The book of ‘Our Life’ is in the sum total of our attempts, successes, and failures.
.8 MEDITATION/OPENNESS OF SPIRIT – Take time to live in the moment. Stay open to ALL possibilities. Hear your own-self breath and feel your own energy. Clear your mind. I enjoy a midnight jog. Seeing the stars, feeling the energy of the moon and the subtle music the creatures of the night make. It’s healthy, it’s beautiful, it’s peaceful and it helps me recenter myself.
.9 FAITH/SPIRITUALITY – I am not talking about denominational religion. Imagine a world with no religion, no church and no people. What do you truly believe in? And whatever that is, that will serve as a structure for grounding you when it feels like life is overwhelming you. That will be the basis you rebuild your life upon.
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We are not seeking perfection. We are seeking to be a better version of ourself. The self that is underneath being held down just dying to come out. Real change can happen if you allow it. Losing your fear and swallowing your pride works wonders. Today, I am friends with every single ex I’ve had. By Ex I mean ex-wife and ex-girlfriends that I had relationships with. Even the one’s I parted on bad terms with, we’ve buried the ax as they say. They have a new respect and love for me. They even volunteer to do things for me at times. Now if that isn’t a testament to making true change, I don’t know what is. If I can do this. So can you.
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There was much more I wanted to cover in Finding Yourself. This is a subject I may pick back up again in the near future.
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When other’s stand in the way of you finding yourself, maybe it’s time to recreate yourself. Ask yourself, who do you want to be? It is when you know who you are that your life falls into place. I can’t begin to describe the powerful energy I feel inside myself at times. The power to connect with others in spite of distance. The spiritual awakening. It is a freedom that words can not describe. I want to infect all of you with the power of knowing yourself. I want to be there for your rebirth and watch as the shackles that has you chained down fall from your body. The glow on your face when you discover your inner beauty. Our story is just starting. I stand with you. Join me. The world can be our play ground. We can rediscover our surroundings and take in all the small details we may have once missed. Our senses can be reawakened. Reexperience the vibrant colors, the serene sounds, the breath taking smells, the passionate touch and the intoxicating taste. To feel passionate about so many things that pass through our lives. To really live! Like seeing and experiencing as though you were a child for the first time. We will steam roll over all the negative doubters. We will pursue a brighter day and happiness in our life. Because Together we are unstoppable, my love! WE will find that beautiful and unique person we are! Always and forever!
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