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Dating in 2019 Part 1, is my topic on this week’s “Bleeding Heart Chronicles”. Good morning, love. This is the article I’ve threatened to write for months. I have a lot to say, so there will be a part 2 and maybe 3. This is near and dear to my heart because I have 2 small children that have to grow up in this insane world and deal with the kind of pathetic situation we call modern dating. [gap size=”8px”] Dating is not for the faint of heart. In a world full of sharks finding “The One” requires a lot of effort. Having to wade through the enormous reservoir of liars, cheaters, game players, those who are not serious, or getting over their ex, or worse yet, already taken, will leave you with some serious dating fatigue. Dating can feel like a second job. In short, it gets tiresome meeting new people and having to make new connections again and again and again and again. To describe this enormous complex situation in one word would be….”Exhausting”! And for those whose been married for years and suddenly find themselves single, you’re about to get an ‘Awakening’. [gap size=”8px”] Let’s start with a few facts. In 2018 a Company (GSS), did a Demographics of unfaithful marriages in America. It showed that married couples from ages 18-30 was 11% unfaithful with women doing a majority of the cheating. This number unbelievably rises as they get older. It also showed ages 31-40 couples were 14% unfaithful with men and women matching in infidelity. Ages 41-50 couples were 16% unfaithful with men doing the majority of the cheating. Ages 51-69 couples were 24% unfaithful. It peaks at 26% unfaithful at age 75, then begins to drop. This is couples who are still together!! There was also a study done that involved seeking out married couples who were just unhappy in their present relationship with their spouse. 46% of Men were unhappy being married to their partner. And 66% of women were unhappy being married to their partner. This may sound cynical. But, the next time you see that couple who’s been together for years and think awww, think again. [gap size=”8px”] Now add the divorce rate of over 50%. It’s been said that calculates to every 13 seconds, there is one divorce in America. To be fair, this was as of 2018. But one news source reported that divorce rates have dropped as of 2019. But don’t get excited, because they forgot to report marriage rate dropped too. So much for that. Why did I include all this? What does it have to do with dating?This shows the landscape we have to weed through in order to date. This helps back up everything I will be saying in my next article about this. The 50% of couples able to stay married, less than half are even happy about it. Leaving the other 50% who got divorced, bitter or broken or both. And judging by the hateful post I see on Facebook everyday, I’d say we have a lot of bitter people. [gap size=”8px”] Clearly there is no respect between Men and women. I grew up opening the door for a lady whether she was getting in my vehicle or some lady I just met at a store. I still do it today. To me it’s just polite. The difference is, when I open a door for a lady to walk into a store today, she will NOT acknowledge me in anyway. She doesn’t smile. She doesn’t make eye contact. Nothing. I don’t exist. And today, if my date tells me she’s divorced, I’ve learned chances are she’s still married, with a husband off working somewhere. Now imagine that happening to you, again and again. And then on the other side I get to see blogs where a lady complains a man came onto her online. He sent her an email she didn’t ask for. He sent pictures she didn’t ask for. Sometimes I’m not sure if they are just bragging or bitter. But, the same exact thing is happening to men. Unsolicited pictures and inappropriate messages is the new normal from both men and women. [gap size=”8px”] When I came across a post the other day on some blog website. This woman posted that her only complaint about her ‘first date’ was the Man called her ‘Baby’. She was so upset. So she was asking advice. The feeding frenzy started. Post after post had nothing to say good. People commented that the man was probably dating 7 or 8 women at one time and forgot her name. Really?They didn’t even know this man. This is what we have become! Just spew hatred. I wanted to tell her, she’s lucky if that’s her only complaint! And what if that man had a daughter and he calls her baby so often, that this time it was a slip of the tongue? But no, we live in a time where we have to be perfect. We live in a time where movies have taught us if it isn’t the fairy tale, run. The lack of respect for one another runs deep. [gap size=”8px”] I have lady friends I talk to often. We have shared stories of our dates. We compare notes. One side is no better than the other. I’m not surprised that some of us decided to give up dating for awhile months ago. But, I hear it from guys as well. Both men and women are saying “I give up on dating!!!”. [gap size=”8px”] WI will be covering much more in part 2. More facts. and some advice. [gap size=”8px”] Take a good look around and open your eyes to the REAL world. We’ve all suffered at the hands of someone else’s abuse. Sometimes, multiple times. Does that pattern continue? Was the person abused, who abused us? Men and women are pointing their fingers at each other. But it’s all OUR faults! We’ve allowed it to get this far. You and I are in the same boat. We are the one’s left to deal with this mess. But, we may also be the ones that can change it. Respecting ourselves will lead to better morals. Respecting others will lead to better manners. Respect is an expression of love. And that is what we need more of. As always. I stand with you. I bleed with you. We will pursue a brighter day and happiness in our life. We will overcome this dating thing. Because Together we are unstoppable, my love! WE will be that strong individual that this world needs! Always and forever! [gap size=”8px”] To My loyal followers:You that have followed me for some time are my back bone. I appreciate your support and kind words you give me. You help me in ways you can never imagine. I’ve enjoyed speaking to each and everyone of you. I’m not just saying this as an inspirational thing. This comes from my heart. I truly hope that you can feel me. Sometimes the way we truly feel does not express itself enough in our words. If I had the power of blessings, I would rain down a million of them on each one of you. I am yours, now and forever. I love you.
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Lord Freakzilla is a passionate and resourceful creative writer, experienced in studies of human behavior and psychology. His articles for “Bleeding Heart Chronicles “ is fueled by his compassion for the broken hearted. He also brings to the table his gothic poetry style for “Dark Rose Poems” series.