Common Relationship Problems

Common Relationship Problems By Lord Freakzilla, for “Bleeding Heart Chronicles”. Men and women are very different in the way they approach a situation, view it or even react to it. This can lead to some interesting outcomes and confusion for both genders. So let’s explore. Men commonly like to approach a situation in a more systematic way. Whereas women commonly will approach the situation from an emotional level.the following is a uplifting / inspirational article presented by lord freakzilla and the publisher Bleeding Heart Chronicles for common relationship problems.

Common Relationship Problems, is my topic on this week’s “Bleeding Heart Chronicles”. Good morning, love. Men and women are very different in the way they approach a situation, view it or even react to it. This can lead to some interesting outcomes and confusion for both genders. So let’s explore.

As a young man growing up with women friends, you tend to get a lot of insight on how differently a woman thinks about her situation as compared to how a man would see it. Men commonly like to approach a situation in a more systematic way. Whereas women commonly will approach the situation from an emotional level. This is not to say one way is better. Each approach can be useful depending on the situation. And men and women can actually switch roles at times on their approach.

One common area is communicating feelings. And a scenario may happen like this. The woman wants to get her man to open up and talk to her so she can understand what is going on inside of him. The man is awkward when it comes to dealing with feelings, so he fumbles and stalls through the process. The woman begins to get anxious and disappointed over their lack of connection and goes on offense. She begins to ask more questions trying to understand. The man sees the multiple questions as badgering him. This triggers the mans anxiety and he begins to shut down. This increases the woman’s anxiety and the downward spiral continues.

Research has shown some of the common complaints in a couple’s relationship. Let’s start with common complaints from a woman’s point of view.
“I feel like he doesn’t care about me.”
“He doesn’t let me know what he’s thinking.”
“I can’t trust him.”
“I catch him in lies.”
“He doesn’t answer my texts.”

Now common complaints from a man.
“She is always telling me what to do.”
“She is always asking me a thousand questions.”
“She is always asking me where I’m going.”
“I feel like she is always trying to control me.”
“She’s always looking at my phone.”

For a woman it’s about what he is not doing. For a man it’s about what she consistently keeps doing. The partners differ in their needs for closeness and space. Anxiety over their needs is what they share in common. The woman feels she is doing the heavy lifting in the relationship. The man feels he is being micromanaged. She feels he rarely initiates things. He feels that if he does initiate something, she more often than not shoots it down or criticizes him for it. She feels like she can never get him to open up and talk to her, to show more interest in her. He feels like he’s learned it’s better to keep his mouth shut to avoid trouble. She feels like when she sends him a text, he takes forever to respond. He feels like he doesn’t have time for text, because he is busy at work.

For couples who reach this point, it could indicate past bad experiences. We’ve all been broken at one time or another. And it is common to bring those wounds into a new relationship. They both may have past experiences where the opposite sex cheated on them, had affairs, or suddenly left. They could have experienced loss and neglect in their childhood, that never healed. There can be things in their childhood that would cause them to be sensitive to criticism and control. When a couple is filled with anxiety over previous bad experiences, communicating can result in a power struggle that leads to devastating results. Instead of communicating it becomes a battle over who is right and who is wrong. When the partners differ on their needs for closeness and space, this is called approach/distance, pursue/avoid, neglect/intrusion pattern.

Couples who find themselves in this type of deadly dynamic, needs to break the cycle by stopping the standoff and meeting in the middle. Both need to understand what each is sensitive to. She may need to give him some space. He may need to give her more of his time. Both need to redefine the problem. Each needs to stop feeling like a victim and let the other know what they need. The man may need to step up more as she may need to step down. Both has to step outside their comfort zone, approach their anxiety, go against the grain and habits, and do it because they care about each other and their relationship. They both need to come up with alternate ways of each getting what each needs. Stop assuming things about each other that they have no proof about. Make realistic expectations. Have an honest conversation about their needs in the relationship.

We live in a conclusive world. Where what is unknown to us, we fill in with assumptions and conspiracies. A world where intolerance, impatience and disinformation reigns supreme. If we would just stop and allow ourselves to take a breath. Take time to really access a situation with a clearer head. We may see our problems aren’t as overwhelming as we love to make them. We will find that the best thing to hold onto in life is each other. Reality can actually be better than our dreams if we allow them to be. We must learn to give out love freely, and to allow it to freely come into our lives. As always, I stand with you. I bleed with you. Together we can overcome common relationship problems. We will pursue a brighter day and happiness in our life. Because Together we are unstoppable, my love! Blessings and positive energy to you all, Always and forever!

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By: Lord FreakZilla ®
˜Bleeding Heart Chonicles˜©

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