Avoiding disappointment By Lord Freakzilla, for “Bleeding Heart Chronicles”. How many of us have suffered disappointment? That’s like asking how many of us actually breathe. If you’re living….you’re gonna get disappointed. There’s no avoiding it. In fact, expect it to happen many times in your life. The focus, should be dealing with it. It’s that emotional feeling in the end, when things just didn’t work out as we expected, and we felt sadness. That gut wrenching feeling of loss, a painful gap between our expectations and reality. the following is a uplifting / inspirational article presented by lord freakzilla and the publisher Bleeding Heart Chronicles for Avoiding disappointment.
Avoiding disappointment, is my topic on this week’s “Bleeding Heart Chronicles”. Good morning, love. How many of us have suffered disappointment? That’s like asking how many of us actually breathe. If you’re living….you’re gonna get disappointed. There’s no avoiding it. In fact, expect it to happen many times in your life. The focus, should be dealing with it.
It’s that emotional feeling in the end, when things just didn’t work out as we expected, and we felt sadness. That gut wrenching feeling of loss, a painful gap between our expectations and reality. You can’t always get what you want. Yet many of us insist on having the exact outcome we were picturing in our minds. The real problem is that there’s no real connection between our expectations and reality.
When we believe that there’s something we must absolutely have to be happy, we set ourselves up for disappointment. We can create expectations, ultimatums and deals without making sure that the people who could make our expectations come true are actually in on the plan. But, our experiences of disappointment provide us with valuable information about our beliefs, about ourselves, other people, and what will make us truly happy. However, there are those who completely refuse to see the patterns, and continue to repeat their mistakes over and over.
A common mistake is believing that if we meet “the one,” then everything else in our lives will fall into place, and we’ll live happily ever after. That somehow magically, all the things wrong with us will suddenly vanish. No work. Just instantly better…..provided we find “the one”. Our expectations about when things should happen are influenced by social norms. Causing us to set a time limit for how long it will take to get what we want. We have fixed ideas about how it’s all going to come together. And this is how we continually set ourselves up for disappointment.
So, how do we deal with disappointment? Take a moment to…wallow. Yes, stop. Be calm. And let it all sink in. If you label exactly how you feel in that moment, you may find it easy to process. After first feeling the disappointment, step back and assess your situation. A lot of times things aren’t quite as bad as we initially thought. It’s ok to be disappointed. Just don’t let that disappointment grow into a much bigger emotion that takes you over. The longer you stew in it, the more likely you will become discouraged, then depressed. If you find yourself getting anxious over it. Find yourself some stress relief. This can be anything you find relaxing. Such as meditating, walking, listening to music, taking a long bath or watching a comedy.
To avoid as many disappointments as you can in the future, do these things. Never insist on having something that either your life doesn’t really depend on or that is outside of your control. Instead of concentrating on a time limit to get something done, concentrate on doing as much as possible to make it happen. Sometimes baby steps is what is needed to finally get the big goal. Never expect people to come through for you, especially if they have no idea you are counting on them. If you need help, ask for it. When things don’t work out as planned, don’t assume anything. Usually the conclusion you jump to first, is wrong. Get your facts first.
We live in a self absorbed world. Where most people have their life planned out and what they expect to happen. Usually when this doesn’t happen, they fake it. You see it on social media all the time. All these perfect lives being lived out…..yeah right! Never compare your life to anyone else’s, you never know what the real truth is. There is a saying by Bruce Lee – “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” This is so true. Live your life the way you see fit and whatever makes you happy is what you should pursue. That will lead to happiness and avoid disappointment. Do Not follow anyone else’s expectations. And make your own expectations of yourself reality, not goals you’ll never reach. I stand with you. I bleed with you. We will pursue a brighter day and happiness in our life. We will avoid disappointments. Because Together we are unstoppable, my love! Blessings and positive energy to you all, Always and forever!
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Avoiding disappointment By Lord Freakzilla, for “Bleeding Heart Chronicles”. How many of us have suffered disappointment? That’s like asking how many of us actually breathe. If you’re living….you’re gonna get disappointed. There’s no avoiding it. In fact, expect it to happen many times in your life. The focus, should be dealing with it. It’s that emotional feeling in the end, when things just didn’t work out as we expected, and we felt sadness. That gut wrenching feeling of loss, a painful gap between our expectations and reality. the following is a uplifting / inspirational article presented by lord freakzilla and the publisher Bleeding Heart Chronicles for Avoiding disappointment.
Lord Freakzilla is a passionate and resourceful creative writer, experienced in studies of human behavior and psychology. His articles for “Bleeding Heart Chronicles “ is fueled by his compassion for the broken hearted. He also brings to the table his gothic poetry style for “Dark Rose Poems” series.